We are not perfect. But here's the good news, no one is.
Yes, we're all obviously pretty great, but we're still human. And being human means having weaknesses, including a special weakness that is an integral part of our personality and that often prevents us from what we really wanted from life. Let's stop hiding behind the idea of perfection and let's have a look. Only when we identify our fatal mistake and realize that it could just as well ruin our lives can we become stronger than he.
Read on to find out what your fatal mistake is and what you can do to still live a full life. We will never overcome our fatal mistake, it is part of who we are, but we can learn to deal with it.
No, I didn't make a typo. Kindness can be a fatal mistake. Don't get me wrong, nice people are great. They are basically what holds the world together. But there is such a thing as too much kindness.
We all have this one friend who always falls in love with complete idiots, although everyone around her can see that he is not good for her, but she stays with him. Why? Because she is nice. To a certain extent, she is friendly where she needs to fix people.
Some of us tend to surround ourselves with broken people. These friends or significant others can be a wide range of depressed or suicidal or negative, or a junkie, or mean to brutal. What all these different types of people have in common is that they are probably pretty broken inside.
The overly friendly person will use all his strength and effort, all his time and money to make these people well again. This is a noble thing, but in too many cases we will cut ourselves to the broken parts of the person we wanted to fix – over and over again.
A little tip: It's great to help people, but You have to put yourself first . If you are constantly sad and miserable, if you are exhausted and depressed, if you feel exploited or abused; You have to cut out the person who is the cause of all of this from your life. It will be very difficult. But the only person you are really responsible for is yourself. Get professional help, talk to your families, and then slowly leave the relationship.
This idiot you were with once cheated on you? Well that's shit. But you can't make every following relationship suffer because your ex-boyfriend was a fool. You might think that you have now seen the true face of men and protect yourself better by expecting any future partner to betray you sooner or later. And if you find that he's texting a friend or smiling at a girl in the bar, you'll prove yourself right.
The road to relationship hell is paved with jealousy . If you are excessively jealous, you will control and suffocate your partner to such an extent that they are either unhappy in your presence or leave you. Jealousy is a proven way to ruin perfectly good relationships.
A little tip: If you are the jealous type, you need to take a deep breath and force yourself to stop. Go and meet his friends. Talk to your partner about your fears. Believe him when he says he loves you and that he would never betray you. Yes, people are lying, but if we expect everyone to lie all the time, the world would be a pretty terrible place.
All relationships are based on trust and without trust you have nothing. If you continue with your crazy jealousy, you will lose it. So make up your mind whether you love him more than your negative view of men and if so, use all your efforts to trust him.
Your smoothie mixer burst while you were making a delicious shake, and now there are bananas all over the kitchen. You cry angry tears because it's just not fair. They take the blender (it was obviously his fault!) And throw it across the room. It breaks and you cut yourself on the broken pieces. You want to scream and destroy things, and you do that until you're exhausted and sink into a crying heap of misery. Now you've made an even bigger mess, you're bleeding and you have a sore throat. Great. This made it totally better.
In today's western world without daily struggles for survival, anger is one of the most useless emotions. It does nothing to improve a situation. Unfortunately, it is also one of the most difficult emotions to control.
Would you like to travel to Asia, but doubt that you can get used to the food, the temperature or the customs there? All of your friends are leaving for a ski weekend, but are you afraid of breaking your leg? Can't open yourself to a new romance because you're afraid of losing it? If one of these sentences sounds like your thoughts, then your fatal mistake is fear .
A little tip: There are ways to overcome your fear. First you have to rationalize. Are your fears realistic? How likely is your plane to actually crash compared to a car accident? (Note: not very much.)
Try something that scares you now and then. You don't have to start with the wildest thing on your list. If you're afraid of heights, you probably shouldn't start skydiving. (But you can if you want a hard but quick lesson. Because after surviving skydiving, what do you really need to be afraid of?) In most cases, it's easier to start with something small. Everyone starts small.
Sadness is an evil thing that slowly but thoroughly destroys all motivation and joy that you once had. If you often feel like you just can't get up and do something even if you were looking forward to it, or if you happen to get a sense of meaninglessness, then sadness is your fatal mistake.
Do you feel depressed now and then, but after a good night it is gone? Then you will be fine. But if sadness becomes your most common emotion and stops you from doing anything with your life until you stop getting off the couch, you may be in danger. This state of sadness is called depression. If you don't fight it, it can ruin your life.
A little tip: One thing that helps people who are constantly sad and unmotivated is to make detailed plans of what they will do every day of the week but not overcrowding them. Sometimes when you get out of bed and shower, it's already a success. Put a few things on your list every day, e.g. B. Grocery shopping, calling you mom, reading a report, eating ice cream or shaving. With a short task list, it is easier for you to get up and actually do things. After that, you will be proud of your performance, no matter how little it may be.
Other ways to combat depression are to train or adopt a dog. In any case you have to get help . Talk to a friend or family member and make an appointment with a therapist. Sometimes depression is something physical that is caused by a lack of a certain hormone, sometimes it comes from a traumatic experience that you may not even remember.
You scraped your ass off to get where you are now. You deserve your success. You are great at what you do. This is all true and there is no reason why you shouldn't be proud of what you have mastered.
But does that mean that you now look down on others? Does this mean that you are the best and that others cannot criticize or correct you simply because you make no mistakes? If you answered yes, you are arrogant. Arrogance may seem like your deserved right, but nobody likes an arrogant person. Arrogance can cost you friendships, relationships, and even jobs. So be careful.
A little tip: Take a look at the best in your industry. Take a look at the people who have changed the world with their inventions. I'm pretty sure you're still a long way from them. You are not the best You are good, yes, but not the best.
You also need to remember that while a person made it easy to avoid making a mistake or ask a stupid question, it doesn't mean that he's bad at everything. Everyone has a good side, even if you don't appreciate it for yourself.
Maybe a lot of people are interested in you or your head is full of great ideas and plans, but you just can't choose one. Would you like to become a lawyer or salesperson? Should you give your heart to person # 1 or person # 2? Which idea do you work on first? Overwhelmed by all the possibilities and the pressure to make decisions, you do nothing.
Indicativity is a fatal mistake that prevents tall and talented people from reaching greatness in their lives. Don't waste your greatness! Are you good in many areas? Great! You may be able to work in several during your life, but you cannot do all of them at the same time.
A little tip: Set yourself tough goals and deadlines. Tell yourself on March 11th at 3:00 p.m. that you have decided to study literature or biochemistry. Then set a time frame in which to think about it (depending on how big the decision is, this can be a day or a week earlier). At this point, sit down, make a list of pros and cons, talk to friends, go for a walk, do whatever it takes to help you make a decision, but stop when your deadline has passed. Now make your decision and stick to your decision.