Many couples do not understand where something goes wrong in their relationship. You know things started great, but eventually the relationship turned around a dark corner.
Today you will learn how to snoop for some relationship destroyers that may exist in your relationship that have led to this turning point.
And you will find out how they secretly entered into your relationship without you realizing it. Once you know what they are, you can work to reverse the damage and avoid it in the future.
To learn what the 3 deadly relationship destroyers are … read on …
First came love, then disaster came …
When your relationship began, you had high hopes that you had found "the one" and no longer had to search and search. You indulged in these feelings and were intrigued by your partner.
Then it became comfortable between you. They both relaxed in the relationship, comfortable enough to carry your old sweat and not take a shower in the morning.
But then things got a little sour between you. You have hit some rough spots, with small disagreements and certain "tones of the voice" and facial expressions that make you feel separated.
At this point, most couples can't help but ask, "Where did everything go wrong?"
Realistically, a relationship cannot maintain a constant state of bliss. When two people come together, conflicts and tensions inevitably arise. These are usually resolved and you move forward.
But for some relationships, tensions and conflicts become almost constant. Instead of bliss, the couple is in hell – and they don't know where to point their school fingers other than at each other.
This only serves to spread them further apart.
What these couples are not aware of is the presence of relationship destroyers who have infiltrated their relationship and are working against them. Or if you are aware of it, you don't know how much influence these destroyers can have – until it's too late.
3 relationship wrecks to watch out for
There are a number of relationship destroyers, but here I give you three. Read the description and listen to your partner in the next few days. Are there any of them?
The first step in getting rid of a relationship destroyer is to be aware that it exists. Here are the three to watch out for?
Relationship Wrecker 1: Pick, Pick, Pick
We've all stumbled upon one thing: you pick a standard that exists in your head for every little thing you do, and if you don't do things the way they would, you lie somehow wrong
A nitpicker always seems to be on the alert to catch someone who does something in a way they think is “not right” and then criticizes the other person:
"Why are you doing this?"
"Why didn't you go there first before stopping in the shop?"
"Why are you driving in the middle lane?"
It is annoying for anyone who is not selected because they constantly feel that they have to stand in front of the judge and jury and defend why they are doing something or how they are doing it.
To stop this behavior that destroys relationships, say to yourself, “My partner has his way of doing things and I have mine. We are both individuals with unique thinking. "
Relationship Wrecker 2: Dripping with This
Do you think you are smarter than your partner?
Does your partner give the impression that he or she thinks he's smarter than you?
A condescending person conveys this impression both verbally and through their body language. They speak to you and look at you as if you are not at the same level as them, and their words can drip with sarcasm.
"Who thinks so?"
"You don't really believe something so trivial, do you?"
A condescending attitude makes the recipient feel "less than" and a relationship with a partner cannot survive if they always feel they cannot keep up. To stop this wrecker, always remember your words and body language: do they show respect or condescension?
Relationship Wrecker 3: Retreat to the Mind Cave
Some people tend to deal with the harsher parts of their world by sticking to it. They retreat to their minds and will not come out and discuss the difficult questions with their partner.
To know whether you are engaging with this relationship destroyer, think of your partner's answer to you: Do they often ask you to speak to them or to give your opinion? If a topic is uncomfortable, do you confront it or hurry to change the topic?
To stop this relationship destroyer, you understand that conflicts are fine and that communication in your relationship breathes life where the sticking turns off oxygen.
I wish you all the best to free your relationship from these destroyers.