Many of my new customers book a session with me and ask why a woman has not seen her after the first or second date. So I'll tell you what I always tell them: Most likely you haven't built up enough sexual tension (and another guy did it). But to build up sexual tension, you have to know how to read sexual tension signs.
Let me explain that. The goal of the third appointment is intimacy – and you cannot achieve intimacy without building sexual tension. Sexual tensions arise:
Immediately in the dating app (assuming you meet them there)
via SMS after entering their number received
Personally on the first and second day
In this article I will show you how you can build up sexual tension with women using sexual tension signs you need to look out for women at every stage of the dating process.
First: What is sexual tension?
Before we dive in, we just want to make it clear what sexual tension really is. Biologically speaking, sexual tension is arousal in the body. Now you would think that sexual attraction usually comes before physical arousal.
The funny thing is, researchers have found that the opposite way can be followed. When your body first experiences arousal – like doing physical activity that increases your adrenaline – your mind can interpret it as a sexual attraction.
So the big advantage is that brain chemicals ignite your nervous system, which also helps to ignite sexual tension on a date. In this case, two people can feel sexually attracted to each other.
But how do you notice these sexual tension signs in someone else? And how can you build sexual tension with this principle? Continue reading.
Signs of Sexual Tension
In order to give you an idea of how you can recognize sexual tension signs, I will first describe some broad topics . Next, let's look at how to build sexual tension and how it looks on the first, second, and third days.
Here are six general sexual tension signs:
1. She speaks to you enthusiastically.
If she is interested in you, she will respond immediately and her tone will be positive and engaging. She can ask questions to keep the conversation going. You both get the giggling feeling of excitement when you talk back and forth. This can be done personally when you first meet her, or via a dating app via SMS.
2. She willingly comes near you.
When you sit next to you in the cabin on your first date or push your chair to your side of the table, that's sexual tension. She already feels good and ascribes this to you.
3. She touches you without realizing it.
Trust me, if a woman is not attracted to you, she will ensure that you are physically comfortable. Not rough – just neutral. But when she feels sexual tension, that barrier will subtly fall.
Next, she could accidentally swipe your arm and grab the restaurant menu. Or she accidentally puts her hand on your back as she gets up to walk past you.
It could really be anything, but the key is that she's not so careful not to touch you. Why? Because it's kind of nice.
4. She has total feminine energy.
Nothing is more powerful than the tension that arises when male and female energy meet. It is like a dance and if it can happen it will of course turn into sexual tension.
The more she feels this tension, the more she will play her female “role”. She'll behave like a girl: playing with her hair, giggling, trying to hide a smile, looking at you when she thinks you're not looking, staring at your lips when you talk, playing with her glass of wine .. you understand the point.
You will also know when she does not experience sexual tension because she does not show her feminine side so much. Instead of playing her "role" in male / female dance, she gives you male energy back – like making decisions about the date and not giving you stereotypical female clues.
Building Sexual Tensions 101
The coolest thing about sexual tensions is that you can learn to create them. It's just an excitement in the body and brain. All you have to do is create that arousal in a different way when you are with her, and she will of course call that feeling attracted to you – and give you sexual tension signs. Here's what I mean:
Tips for Sexual Tensions Before Your First Date
Before your first date, most of your conversations will likely be in text. However, you can build sexual tension from the start by following the steps below.
When you send her a message using a dating app, keep the topics light. Ask your questions and don't be afraid to flirt a bit.
Enter your number in less than 10 messages.
Remember that dating apps are only meant to introduce you to people. The goal is to exit the app and meet it in real life. If she is interested, no more than 10 messages should be required to convey your value and find her real phone number.
Send her an SMS and set a date.
When you have received your number, make an appointment as soon as possible. Be sure to give her a TDL (time, date, and location) when you ask for the date. (You'd be surprised how many people don't! If you say we should hang out sometime, don't ask for a date.)
For the same reason, get dressed I want do not write back and forth unintentionally. Concentrate on your goal.
If you ask, also make sure that your date idea is convincing. Think of something cool that she's interested in (just keep it under $ 10). For example, coffee, happy hour or even ice cream can do the trick in a unique location. They are just as excited about the place as they are about getting to know you. This is the first step in creating this arousal.
Set up as soon as the date is fixed, do not overwrite! Part of building sexual tension is letting your imagination run wild. Instead of revealing too much of your personality, give it just enough to be interested, and then keep talking until you are actually personal.
If she fascinates you, her mind will fill in the gaps about how you could be – which triggers sexual tensions that you would not believe.
Sexual tension signs in a woman before her first date
If you do everything right, you will notice some sexual tension signs that are relevant for this stage are specific. For example, be careful if:
sends you photos of yourself.
If she writes a photo of you (without asking!) You are golden. She is excited to go out with you (i.e. experience sexual tension) and wants you to think about her. She often uses the "What should I wear?" Sorry to send you a photo.
She uses emojis in her messages.
Many We hate emojis, but it is the easiest way to convey your tone when texting. Notice when she uses them. She deliberately wants you to know that she is smiling, laughing at your jokes, or otherwise enjoying the conversation.
Tips for sexual tension on the first date
The goal of the first appointment is to build trust and relationship. This will ultimately move the sexual tension pin forward for your next date. Here are some ways you can do this.
Limit your first date to one hour.
The riddle for the next date remains. The trick is that she wants more.
Get close to her physically.
Find a place to sit next to her, not opposite her (like a wall cabin in a coffee shop). Try showing her a video clip on your phone to get closer to her.
When you lean forward so that you can see it on your phone screen, touch arm to arm. This physical connection will shake her head out into her body, preparing her mind for sexy thoughts and sending all sorts of non-verbal information on her way.
Sexual tension signs in a woman on the first date
Body language is the key on the first date. You may notice subtle freebies like:
She turns her feet and body towards you.
If she turns to you, it means that she is dealing with you. If she doesn't like it, her feet could be pointing away from you … with an unconscious desire to race.
She exposes the inside of her arms in front of you.
Sellers often do this on purpose to build trust with their customers: they turn their hands and the inside of their arms up to show openness. It is also a sign of vulnerability that people often do unintentionally when they are comfortable with someone.
Characters like this indicate that she is beginning to trust you, which is a crucial step on the way to building rapport and ultimately sexual tension.
Tips for Sexual Tensions on the Second Date
Once you've reached the second date, it's time to improve things a bit. You can increase your excitement if you:
plan an active appointment.
Set up a date on which you are physically active, such as a hike. It will of course produce endorphins to create sexual tension between the two of you.
Ask more detailed questions.
Don't overdo the questions, of course, but some, Good Thinkers will let you know that you are concerned are interested in getting to know them.
Stay in the moment.
Enjoy the hike, bike tour or any other physical activity you have planned. Don't be too intoxicating.
Sexual signs of tension in a woman on the second day
As this should be a physical date Ideally you will notice sexual tension if:
asks for your help.
Maybe you are walking up a hill and she needs a hand to get over a large boulder. Or she has to know how to change gears on her bike or how to swing a golf club.
She nudges, touches or even pushes you a little.
If she jokes around, he could give you a playful punch or bump.
She comments on how big your hands or shoes are.
] You could compare your hands or feet with yours or otherwise play out the difference between your masculinity and your femininity.
Tips for sexual tension on the third date
In the meantime, sexual tension should have been built up. But here's what you can do to really seal the deal:
Set up dinner near your home.
The goal of a third appointment is often intimacy. You want to make this as easy as possible by limiting the distance between the date and one of your houses. An even better option is to prepare your dinner at your home.
Prepare yourself with some deep questions.
Choose some sexual / personal date questions. For more help, see my third date question article.
Sexual tension signs in a woman on the third date
When things are going well, on a third date you will notice certain signs of sexual tension that also indicate the possibility of intimacy. Be careful when:
says that her roommate is gone for the evening.
If she tells you this on purpose (and it's not an accidental detail as part of a larger conversation about something else), take it as a sign that she's doing the same feels like you.
She suggests that you both "seize the moment".
This is practically an open door when it shows others sexual signs of tension. Carpe diem!
Sexual Tension Signs: Conclusion
Hopefully you can now see that sexual tension no longer exists. t an elusive thing. It is a physical state of arousal and if you can create it in someone else, at some point he will feel sexually attracted to you.
If you need further help, do not hesitate to call me. We can go through this together as I give you more personalized tips on how to make a mediocre interaction an interaction it can't resist. We'll also determine if ongoing coaching can help you achieve your general dating goals, such as finding a girlfriend, wife, or long-term relationship.