A study concludes that men are happier when they are married to "good looking" women. Puke. And you.
Apparently men are happier in their marriages when their wives … are waiting … ATTRACTIVE. Huh! Don't you say Lastly, I checked that most people – yes, both genders – enjoyed and appreciated being intimate with people who find them attractive. A psychologist named Andrea Meltzer followed more than 450 newly married couples over a four-year period, trying to determine the correlation between a good-looking spouse and a happy state of the (home) union. (I am not sure how "good looking" or "attractive" was judged here; these terms are obviously quite subjective and personal.)
What did Meltzer find? That men are happier when they are married to "good looking" women – but strangely enough, this does not apply to us deep, selfless, worthy ladies.
In a similar study at UCLA, researchers theorized that men who thought they were "lucky" by marrying pretty women were "happier and more likely to care for their wives' needs – and im In return, the good-looking women were happier in the relationship. “When the men in the study thought they looked better than their spouses, the opposite happened and the boys were less invested in their relationships and satisfied.
Mehhh. This study annoys me at different levels. First, the couples were only examined for four years of marriage; I'm not sure if this is a solid window to adequately determine the long-term happiness of couples. I am also tired of (heterosexual) women not having to worry about what men look like, that we should judge our romantic partners by nature using supposedly flat criteria like "oh". physical attraction. The thing is, we are NOT inherently more virtuous than our male counterparts. We haven't jumped out of the womb in a dazzling rainbow explosion of glitter vapor, and I just don't buy that we're inherently less flat or that chemistry is less important to us (which is at least partially fueled) by physical attraction ).
What I think is that when it comes to love, some women are a little more inclined to give a less than gorgeous but decent man a chance – we may be more of a smidge willing to talk about look beyond a person's physical deficiencies and try to accept them on a deeper level, especially when we're looking for something more serious than an occasional fling or a one-night romp. Does this mean that we don't care what the men with whom we meet / marry look like? Uh, damn no. The idea that women shouldn't care about something as "superficial" as appearance implies that we are morally superior to men, these lower, animal creatures whose every mood, every thought, and every urge is driven by their tails.
Sorry, not sold. I know a lot of women – not that it's a good thing – who don't date a man unless he looks very specific. I was one of those women for a long time! I've made changes in recent years after noticing some uncomfortable things about the disproportionate lead of physical attraction in my romantic dalliances (the old I would manage to do almost ANY kind of screaming obvious red flag, questionable treatment, or bad behavior by one Ignoring guys – IF he managed to look like my physical ideal.
The results of the study also annoy me because they obviously put unnecessary pressure on women to be EVEN more obsessed with how we look and how we can make our looks more acceptable to boys. Pooh. There is MORE TO LIVE than looking for men. And in life there is more than just getting married or staying! The study just seems so sad and obvious; Who doesn't like being in a relationship with someone they love to sleep with and who they look at? This is not current news.
What do you think of the idea that men value appearance more than women?